Monday, January 18, 2021

The Crooked Path

 

The Crooked Path



When I was in high school, my friends were very grade-conscious. In the fall of our senior year, they all signed up for Advanced Biochemistry and Creative Writing. I signed up for Public Speaking and Typing/Shorthand. My friends nagged, “You’ll ruin your class status!” Each class rated a quantitative score based on difficulty. Since I was not science-oriented and writing made my stomach hurt, I took speech and typing.  


In college, I first majored in Elementary Education, the only career I had ever wanted. Mentors told me that teaching jobs were scarce, so I transferred into Business Administration/Accounting. After graduation, I worked as an accountant for three years until my daughter was born.


When she started kindergarten, I volunteered in her school library. Her teacher encouraged me to get my elementary certification, so I returned to school and did so. After three years of subbing, I was thrilled to get a job teaching second grade. New teachers were required to get a Master’s Degree. A friend suggested a new program in Children’s Literature. The summer classes were intense. My shorthand skills came in handy. One of the program’s components was Creative Writing. Hadn’t I skipped that class? I got some pointers from my class mentor and did my best. 


Just about this time, home computers became popular. Hey, I thought, I can type! Back at school, young teachers started showing up at my door, “I hear you can type. Can you help me?” My public speaking skills helped me keep my students engaged. Soon I began writing down my thoughts and submitted them to a new county newspaper for parents.


Madeline Levine, in her book Ready or Not: Preparing Our Kids to Thrive in an Uncertain and Rapidly Changing World, writes that many parents expect their children to chart a course in kindergarten that will take them straight into a high-paying career. Instead, Levine writes that “life is a series of detours” in which people travel “a squiggly line…  a meandering and often unexpected path” to success. According to the World Economic Forum, “65 percent of today’s children will end up in a job that doesn’t exist when you read this.” 


Facing an uncertain future job market, Levine suggests that children develop skills such as flexibility, adaptability, curiosity, and creativity. Children need opportunities for trial and error, to practice careful listening and critical thinking, and to collaborate with others. Encourage children to ask questions and don’t provide all the answers. Parents can model the skills they use for problem-solving. By cultivating a spirit of hope and optimism in their children, parents create a foundation for success: We don’t know what the future will be, but we know you will be up to the task.


Many of us followed squiggly paths. My class status doesn’t matter now. I read with children. I speak in church. I write a blog. My squiggly path led to you reading this right now. Where has your meandering path led you? What squiggly path will your child forge? Won’t be exciting to find out?


(Quotes from Madeline Levine: Ready or Not: Preparing Our Kids to Thrive in an Uncertain and Rapidly Changing World. I hope you can read it!)


Monday, January 4, 2021

Become a Better Person

 

Become a Better Person


One of my favorite TV series is Call the Midwife. The stories center on a group of nurses who serve a poor section of London after WWII. The war devastated the city, food was scarce, and many were homeless or in mourning, so the government decided to provide universal health care for survivors. Nurses and doctors work with patients in clinics and in their homes. The stories are heartwarming but the reason I love the shows is how the nurses and doctors treat their patients. Without exception, they are loving and kind. Their kindness inspires me to be a better person.

The book Anne of Green Gables by Lucy Maud Montgomery also inspires me. Adopted by an elderly brother and sister, Anne arrives like a whirlwind upsetting their quiet life and challenging their views of child-rearing. Anne recognizes her faults and works to correct them — sometimes with hilarious results. In one episode, Anne speaks disrespectfully to a neighbor who insults her looks. Admonished, she argues that the insult has hurt her soul and refuses to apologize. After a period of reflection, she goes down on her knees and offers a flowery apology:

Oh, Mrs. Lynde, I am so extremely sorry," she said with a quiver in her voice. "I could never express all my sorrow, no, not if I used up a whole dictionary. You must just imagine it. I behaved terribly to you--and I've disgraced the dear friends, Matthew and Marilla, who have let me stay at Green Gables although I'm not a boy. I'm a dreadfully wicked and ungrateful girl, and I deserve to be punished and cast out by respectable people forever. It was very wicked of me to fly into a temper because you told me the truth. It was the truth; every word you said was true. My hair is red and I'm freckled and skinny and ugly. What I said to you was true, too, but I shouldn't have said it. Oh, Mrs. Lynde, please, please, forgive me. If you refuse it will be a lifelong sorrow on a poor little orphan girl would you, even if she had a dreadful temper? Oh, I am sure you wouldn't. Please say you forgive me, Mrs. Lynde." 

Throughout the book, Anne fails and repents, every time resolving to become a better person. Every time I read it, I want to be a better person too.

The sitcom, The Good Place, is based on theories of moral philosophy. Four flawed (and deceased) humans sent to what they think is their eternal reward, review their earthly actions through a variety of philosophical viewpoints and resolve to improve themselves even in the afterlife. Through their mishaps and reflections, moral theories of behavior are tested. Every episode, they get a little better. Watching them, I do too.

Children’s books are filled with inspiring stories. Pooh rescues Piglet when he is homeless. Harry Potter defies Voldemort. Charlotte saves Wilbur’s life. Each character acts nobly for the sake of others. Unselfish actions change others’ lives making the world a better place. Choosing kindness is always right.

Andrew Clements wrote books for middle grades. Funny and thought-provoking, his books tell stories about kids who deal with unfair teachers, schoolyard bullies, and troubles with friends and families. In every book, the characters make decisions to react with anger or with charity. Even when it is difficult, they choose the better way. Reading them, I want to do the same. 

A wise man wrote, “Brothers and sisters, fill your minds with beauty and truth. Meditate on whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is good, whatever is virtuous and praiseworthy.” Many books, films, plays, and TV shows inspire us to become better people. Uplifting stories go viral on the internet. People like to think about good things. 

What are you thinking about? Fill your mind with stories that inspire you. Meditate on what is good. Become a better person. 



(Read the many series of Lucy Maud Montgomery. Share the wonderful stories of Andrew Clements with your family. Don't forget Pooh, Harry, Charlotte, and Wilbur! Happy thoughts to you!